This year's Mothers Day held the promise of being a hot one. We were all lost in our own thoughts sitting under the huge old oaks in the back yard, listening to the frogs singing down at the creek, and the birds laughing in the trees. Seems like all the forest creatures were thrilled with the sweltering heat of summer except for Tabby Cat, our folks and of course myself. I can promise you I'll be telling Mom and Dad to get my pool out of storage if these hot temps stick around a few more days.
As we sat in the shade of the backyard I mentioned to Mom that I still hadn't heard for my dear old feathered furiend Oscar the wise old Owl. His health had taken a turn for the worse several months ago to the point that it has affected his emotions and cognitive abilities.
Now Oscar and I had special furiendship and we typically spoke every day without fail. I knew something was amiss about a month or so before it became so glaringly obvious that aliens had abducted my dear friend and had left a confused, ill tempered, and irrational being in his shell. I had spoken to Tabby Cat and my Mom about his confusion and irrational rants in the past.
Mom knowing how heartbroken I was over Oscar and I's tiff said, "Molly, getting older is difficult for us all. Old age takes its toll on everyone in different fashions'.
Oscar still loves you, but his emotions are as confused as his mind is. Your furiend is still in there somewhere. We'll simply have to pray that the doctors can find away to help him take control of his thoughts and feelings, so he can express himself in a more rational fashion. Plus we don't fully understand how badly Oscar is feeling with the aches and pains that go with getting older. When we feel bad we're a bit more grumpy, and if you think about feeling bad every day, well that's a lot of grumpy and a lot of grumpy can make us a bit depressed.
I knew in my heart Mom was right, but it didn't really help with my missing my dear old friend. Mom seeing I was still a bit down in the dumps, said, "Molly, the older we get, the more we understand friendship is a gift. Sometimes we're blessed with a person's friendship a lifetime. Sometimes it's only for a season.
One thing I have learned in my time here on earth is, We can't make a person be our friend. We can't make someone forgive us for a wrong, be it intentional or a misunderstanding. We can apologize for any harm we may have inadvertently caused, but we can't make them accept our apology, or offer their forgiveness. That my sweet girl, is between them and God.
The only thing we can do is to live our lives, and be the best we can be. This is our responsibility. It's not our responsibility to make others understand why we choose the paths we do By the same token, this doesn't give us the right to cause others harm while we're on our journey through this earth.
True friends are the ones that accept the routes we take while we're on this planet. No questions asked. They are there waiting for you when you've gone through the difficult parts of your life as if no time had passed at all.
You and Oscar may or may not become close again, but one thing you can do is, keep him in your heart and prayers. Should he get in touch with you again, simply pick up where you left off. I can promise you, if we live on this earth long enough we're all going to experience hard times, or get our feelings hurt, and we'll all appreciate a dear furiend who loves us unconditionally, warts and all."
Molly looked at her Mom and though she still felt a bit sad, she knew in her heart, that this Mothers Day she was the one who'd received the gift. There's nothing quite like having a Mom to talk about your troubles to.
With a smile on her face once again Molly said, "I love you Mom, Happy Mother's Day!"
(Mother's make the world a better place, and help us to be better people (and pups) Happy Mother's Day to you all.)
Love and Peace,
Molly and my Mom